The Oscars, the stars, the red carpet! It was all sooooo exciting!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The 2 hours of make up, the one-hour of hair styling, the uncomfortable shoes! It was all so exhausting!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Now add to that the pressure to look great, the pressure to make sure you get interviewed and lastly the pressure to keep up with the illusion<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2014 was my maiden voyage onto the pressure cooker that is the red carpet of the Academy Awards. I have watched the stars walk the red carpet on TV for years. This was my chance to walk it and be the one who was being asked whose dress I was wearing. Let\u2019s face it\u2026not many people can say they\u2019ve done that in their lifetime and I bought it lock stock and barrel\u2026.for a little while. \ud83d\ude42 <\/p>\n\n\n\n For me\u2026life is an adventure and the Oscars experience was just that\u2026an adventure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n One thing that I noticed was that everybody was really stressed out. The stars, their handlers, the media, the assistants, the security\u2026etc\u2026 Why isn\u2019t this more enjoyable, more fun, a celebration???????. I mean, the men are wearing tuxedos and the women are walking around in $20\u2019000 gowns and millions of dollars worth of jewelry. Who wouldn\u2019t wish they could be in their shoes? (It\u2019s not real and mostly on loan)<\/p>\n\n\n\n They pose and smile for the paparazzi and answer questions over and over again. Everyone is watching their every move. They are rich and famous. They have it all. (Really?????????? Not really\u2026it is an illusion)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Everybody, not just celebrities, succumb to what others think we \u201cshould\u201d be or how we \u201cshould\u201d behave and what we \u201cshould\u201d do. We mostly go to work and play a role. A role we think others want us to play. That is why Facebook is so popular. It is a place to showcase and show off that our lives are so fabulous! (It\u2019s an ILLUSION!)<\/p>\n\n\n\n I saw it everyday in the corporate world. I lived it! I too lived the illusion and nobody knew how \u201cempty\u201d I really was. One day, I said enough. I did the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I found the strength and courage to start the process of becoming the person I really AM. It was time to start letting go of the ILLUSION. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Today I work with CEOs and executives on how to deal with this pressure\u2026the pressure to keep the shareholders happy, the board happy, and the boss happy\u2026 CEOs have to perform or outperform expectations so that\u2019s why they work 24\/7 and often lose themselves. Company cultures are mostly fear based and that fear makes it\u2019s way down to the managers and then to employees. Employees are afraid of their managers, they are afraid to lose their jobs or afraid to disagree, or\u2026 or\u2026 or. Mostly everyone deep down (consciously or not) is miserable and afraid. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Living the life you want to live is a choice<\/strong> and everyone has a choice to live a balanced life, a fulfilled and content life\u2026if you chose to. We can chose to live under stress (why?) or we can chose to do what we love (why not?) We put these huge expectations on ourselves everyday. Expectations that are hard or near impossible to meet but here\u2019s the secret\u2026one that I teach my clients.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cWhen there aren\u2019t these huge expectations to fulfill, there is a lot less judgment. And when there is no judgment there is acceptance, and when there is acceptance, there is joy and when there is joy, there is freedom<\/strong>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n I will be walking the red carpet once again in a few days and I am going with an open mind and heart, without any expectations about this new adventure. I must admit, I will look around and wonder where the life of these celebrities will go or end? This past year we lost two actors who succumbed to these huge pressures. How many more will take their lives (with awareness or without) before Hollywood stars (and everybody else too) realize that it doesn\u2019t have to end or be this way? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Your life doesn\u2019t have to be an illusion. You do not have to live under constant pressure\u2026. You choose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This year, I choose to wear comfortable shoes!!!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Here is to your \u201ccomfortable shoes\u201d \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jacqueline Muller<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The Oscars, the stars, the red carpet! It was all sooooo exciting! The 2 hours of make up, the one-hour of hair styling, the uncomfortable shoes! It was all so exhausting! 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